I was on facebook and a confession from another college appeared in my dash so I read it, and then I read the comments and most of them were absurd. I mean, if you flirt a little, get drunk, get really bad and wake up with someone’s penis in your vagina without your consent, that’s wrong. It’s not her fault. Yes, she was drunk. No, that doesn’t make her an idiot. You go out to have fun, have a little too much alcohol… and then someone who is sober than you kisses you, touches you, etc. It sucks, I have been there (luckily, just the kissing and not the sex part) and it is horrible. You feel dirty, disgusting, you stop trusting people and you stop drinking afraid of being used as an object because you are under the influence. Society is wrong if we blame the victim. One of the many reasons why a lot of people (specially women) don’t look out for help. This same thing applies to mental illnesses, violations, or just looking for someone who will listen to you. We keep saying that people who want to be heard or want any sort of help are ‘weak’ or ‘stupid’ or any peyorative term. It has to stop. Have some empathy for god’s sake.